Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Well Shit My Britches and Call Me Winifred

I totally have no clue either. So don't even waste the energy wondering.

Last night we went to my in-laws' for a late afternoon barbecue. It was fun, we got to show them the new rig they helped us to buy. We got my FIL's stamp of approval, and my MIL... Well, she had her own reasons for liking Ricky. I shit you not, while the four of us were outside talking and pointing out all the neat features she pipes up with the following statement:

"Yea, and it's really safe for babies."

I look over at her with the pasted on smile and respond, "Yes, I'm sure it is...."

Then I turned, wide eyed and probably a few shades paler, and looked to see if my other half had heard his mother's statement.

In case I haven't made it clear on here yet, I do not want children. Correction, WE do not want any children. My MIL... She doesn't know this. Nor does she need to immediately. It's not a matter of how amazing of a parent I think I will be, or anything like that. I know people will tell me it doesn't sound selfish, but the truth of the matter is that I don't want children because they just aren't part of my future goals or plans. I know my feelings could change, but I don't think they will, and if anything we could always be foster parents to a child (or children) or even adopt.

Personally though, after being around to help out a lot with my niece and nephew when they were little, has kind of turned off my desire to have rugrats of my own. Thankfully, I have a wonderful man who feels the same way.

And as I read this I start thinking how stupid, rude, inconsiderate, and, most of all, selfish I sound to all my amazing friends who are already mommies (and every single one of you are amazing mommies, and I love all your freakishly irresistably adorable children).

Those are my feelings.

Collin said that if his mother really starts pushing the issue over the next few years, he will just tell her that we have been trying and that he is sterile (when we can afford it he wants to get a vasectomy, which I totally support.). The reason behind him being the sterile one? If it came out that I was the sterile one, I'd see my MIL being the kind to tell him to leave me since I cannot provide children for him...

And my cat is attacking my purse.... Effing psychopath...

And now
she is pissed because mommy took the purse away.

I don't even remember what I originally wanted to blog about... Oh well, at least I got some of my brain's baggage unloaded...

Peace!

1 comment:

Kristina said...

First of all, let me start out by saying...I FREAKING love your title to this blog!! I had to read it twice to make sure I read it correctly!!! You crack me up!
Any ways...sounds like the MIL would love a grandchild or two! Don't worry, you aren't a horrible person...not everyone wants children. And as long as Colin feels the same...AWESOME!! When I am in town, you can chill with Emily and I and get your spoiling kid time in!! But, even though you don't want kids, you are in no way, shape or form a horrible person. Kids are VERY demanding...and you know this from helping raise your neice and nephew! You will always be an auntie...no need to deal with the responsibility of being mommy! Have fun just spoiling and then sending home!!! (Tis always fun!)
Love ya!!